How are you relating to life?

Hi friends,

We are in the full swing of summers abundance and my hope is that you’re able to find some time to enjoy all of its glory. The farmers markets are bumping, the birds are in their song, the bees are making honey, and the flowers are in full bloom. What a season! I often find summer busy, but there are many quiet moments in the in-between.

One concept that I’ve returned to throughout my life is this: how we do one thing is how we do everything. Summer, as a teacher, seems to tantalize us with reflection. Endlessly.

We can rush like fast water, clench like roots in drought, or move slowly like the blooming of petals. We can practice loving awareness, hold curiosity, or cling to rigidity. The way we approach something as ordinary as a morning walk can reveal this. Do we hurry through it while mentally checking off the day's to-do list, or do we notice the warmth of the sun, the birdsong, the breeze, and our own breath? That small choice often echoes into the rest of the day, shaping how we meet our work, our relationships, and ourselves.

In therapy, folks often spend time reflecting on how we relate to our parents… our partners… our children… our work….our friends. But how often do we turn our attention to a different relationship altogether and ask: How do I relate to life itself?

This season, we invite you to sit with that question. If I were life's partner, its lover, its closest friend, how would life describe me?

We are in relationship with life every single moment - breath by breath, season by season. And because our team has the privilege of sitting with humanity, day in and day out, we begin to notice patterns. We become witnesses to the threads that connect seemingly separate experiences, gently weaving together the dots that reveal something deeper.

We see people bracing against life. We see people who sit in appreciation.
We see people trying to control every outcome. We see people negotiating with it when things don’t go their way. We see people who surrender - who flow.

Do you treat life like something that’s happening to you? Or something you’re dancing with?

Some of us relate to life anxiously, gripping, fearing loss, scanning for what could go wrong. Some of us are avoidant, holding back joy so it won’t hurt if it leaves.
Some of us are locked in a power struggle, determined to out-strategize the mystery.

And some… learn to soften.

Not because life is easy. Not because grief, suffering, or pain don’t come.
But because they’ve released the illusion of control without releasing their participation. They understand that flow isn’t passive. It’s responsive. It’s relational.

Flow is not about floating downstream with closed eyes.
It’s about feeling the current and adjusting your body accordingly.
It’s about knowing when to swim, when to rest, when to let yourself be carried.

Navigating change is part of the intimacy.

Life shifts. Seasons turn. Identities shed. What worked yesterday may not work tomorrow. And in relationship, flexibility is devotion. To flow with life is to trust that change is not betrayal. It’s movement. It’s growth. It’s the dance continuing.

Some trust the process and let their soul lead. To us, freedom is the absence of inner conflict. And that feels like the embodiment of trust. We are all learning to trust life.
Learning to trust there is a part of ourselves who can respond and be with whatever is present. No easy feat!

There’s a quiet shift that changes everything: From “Why is this happening to me?”
To “How do I want to meet this?”

From resistance…To participation. From gripping…To engaging.

The tone of your inner posture becomes the texture of your experience. So again, here’s the question…

If I were life’s partner… how would life describe me?

Resistant? Trusting? Rigid? Curious? Guarded? Devoted? Playful? Afraid to open?
Willing to move when the music changes? Loving? Hateful? Kind? Rushed? Intentional?

Sit with that.

Because the way you show up in this partnership is shaping the story you’re living.
And you get to choose how you relate, how you flow, when you speak, what you stand for, how you express your values and how you navigate what changes.

Life is always moving. The question is not whether it will change. The question is:
How do I desire to meet life as life continues to do what life naturally does and then put that desire into practice.

Love you,
Rhea & the Sacred Moon Therapies Collective Team